If your man is pulling away and you are on the verge of a breakup, you may want to find out why men leave women. In this article I want to summarize what I have learned from men over the years of coaching women in dating and relationship skills.
One of the most frequently asked questions I hear from women is why did he leave me? We were so in love and she suddenly tells me that she doesn’t know what she wants and she doesn’t think it’s going to work.
In this article I will summarize the men’s responses and what I learned from interviewing men from all walks of life. If your man doesn’t feel the way he used to feel about you, be sure to check out the resource at the end of this article. It will teach you the ten ways to make a man fall in love with you. But before you do, read this entire article because you will discover the main reasons why men leave the women they love.
First, I wanted to know and I asked men this question: would you ever leave a woman you love more than anything? Her first reaction was: No way!
Then I asked them to think about it and come up with a well thought out response. I asked again, what would make you leave a woman you LOVE?
Here are the answers:
1. unfaithful
No matter how much a man loves a woman, in most cases he will leave his woman if he finds out that she has cheated on him.
The reason for that is not so much jealousy. Cheating is a slap in the face to a man’s ego. A man wants to be with a woman who confirms and enhances his ego. He certainly doesn’t want to be with a woman who humiliates him.
Knowing about a woman’s affair makes a man feel humiliated in his own eyes, as well as in the eyes of other men he meets.
The fear that other men will find out that his wife is sleeping with someone else and the humiliation that comes with it, as well as the humiliations he expects from other men, make him feel less of a man.
If you have been cheating on your man, watch out! There is very little you can do to save your relationship.
Counseling for both you and your man is recommended to save your relationship.
two. Dishonesty
Following up on deception is dishonesty. If you’ve been hiding something from your man out of fear that he’ll leave you if he finds out, you might also fear that he’ll leave you when he finds out you were dishonest with him.
You should always tell your partner the truth, no matter how painful it is. Lies and deception destroy all kinds of relationships, from friendship to marriage. Telling your partner the truth is not always the easy option, but it is the safest.
When your boyfriend knows that you always tell the truth, he will always trust you. If, on the other hand, he hears you tell lies to others, even those that you might dismiss as petty or white lies, he will have less trust in you.
If you want a true partnership with a man, you must go into your relationship knowing who you are dealing with. If you have regrets about something in his past, it’s better to admit the negative issues in your past and accept responsibility than to have a man go into a relationship without knowing something he needs to know.
You may be thinking, why should I reveal something I’m ashamed of? This is because when entering a relationship with the ultimate goal of getting married, you need to make your partner aware of the things that will matter in the marriage.
You have to feel in a position to make an informed decision when entering a serious relationship.
A man thinks that if a woman cannot be trusted with regard to little things, there is no trust in a relationship. And without trust, frankly, not many people will stay in a relationship for the long term.
3. Consistent attempts to make him jealous
Constant attempts to make your man jealous will create uncertainty about the relationship. A man doesn’t think of you as more desirable because you are constantly flirting with other men. A man thinks you are desirable because he chose you, not because you have chosen to flirt with other men.
When a girlfriend constantly tries to draw attention to other men, what it tells a man is that he is not good enough for her to publicly humiliate him. A man will not want to be with a woman who humiliates him (see reason No.1)
When a woman tries to make a man jealous, the only real reason she’s doing it is because of her own insecurities. But a man doesn’t see it that way. He looks at him like this: am I proud to be seen with this woman or do I want to hide? If she makes him want to hide, she is deflating her ego, and no man wants to be with a woman with whom her ego is deflated.
Four. Acting nonchalant like he doesn’t care
When a man approaches a woman; when a man dates a woman, and when a man gets into a serious relationship with a woman, he wants to see her approval. No man will go any further and move the relationship to the next level when he doesn’t believe a woman approves of him.
A man won’t ask you out if he doesn’t think you’ll say YES. A man will not ask you to marry him if he thinks you will say NO.
A man has a sensitive ego. He doesn’t want his ego to be shattered by getting a NO.
You may have heard that playing hard to get and showing indifference is the way to get a man; this couldn’t be further from the truth. When you show disapproval, a man won’t make a fool of himself by pursuing a woman he doesn’t like.
One of the reasons is that it defeats his purpose of pursuing a woman when there is no hope of it becoming anything. The second reason is that not only is it stupid to waste time when no results are guaranteed; it’s also quite embarrassing for a man to spin his own wheels just to be laughed at.
5. acting insecure
When a woman acts insecure, this is a huge turnoff for a man. Acting on insecurities can take many forms, from approval seeking to fear of abandonment. These are the things that subconsciously tell a man that a woman isn’t secure enough to know that she loves her and needs constant validation.
Only a man who has severe insecurities will appreciate this behavior. Such a man will see his woman’s insecurities as validation of his own. But unless you’re with an insecure man, acting on insecurities will drive the man away.
6. negative disposition
Have you ever met a woman who is always negative? The weather always sucks; if it rains it is bad, but if the sun comes out it is also bad because now it is burning.
He speaks ill of everyone (behind his back). She comes home from work to take her troubles out on anyone who will listen.
Do you know someone like that? How does it feel to be around that person for thirty minutes?
No man wants to be around a negative woman. We are attracted to people who attract us with positive energy. If he has a tendency to unload his burden on someone, the best advice is to hire a psychiatrist and keep his negativity out of your personal and dating life. Or he can sign up for boxing and get his negative energy out that way, very effective, seriously.
7. Persistent emotional drain
Do you know these women who just nag and nag about something? She said it once and yet she keeps bringing it up over and over again. At some point it starts to sound like background noise. Yes, the more a woman scolds, the more the man ignores her.
‘Take out the trash. Take out the trash. Take out the trash. Bla bla bla.’
Instead of nagging, find a solution. What is the problem here? The trash. How can this problem be solved without scolding? There are many ways to solve each and every problem. He doesn’t have to be the one to take out the trash. And not even you. Garbage must be taken out. How can this be resolved? Reframe your thinking from ‘I want him to do this and that’ to ‘What can I do to have such and such a result?’
8. she changed
Have you ever heard this saying ‘a woman marries a man hoping he will change, but he never does; a man marries a woman in the hope that she will never change, but she always does.’ If your man is falling out of love for him to feel the love he felt for you before he became the woman he fell in love with in the first place.
9. she was not grateful
She never says ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. She takes for granted everything he does for her.
When a man feels he can’t make a woman happy, he stops trying. When he doesn’t hear words of encouragement and words of thanks, he won’t try any harder. A man is like a dog: he sits down, he gets a treat. He stops giving treats to a dog and he will misbehave.
Reward good behavior and show appreciation when needed.
10 stopped caring
She was homecoming queen when they fell in love. Ten years and two children later, she is fifty pounds overweight and wears an old robe and slippers around the house. Her hair hasn’t seen a touch of a comb since yesterday and her eyebrows haven’t been plucked in two years.
He loves her, but that sexy new secretary makes his heart race when he arrives at the office in the morning. Should he leave the wife he loves but is not sexually attracted to or should he have a secret affair? That is the choice a man must make.
If you have been guilty of any of the above, once you change the way you relate to your man, you will see a significant boost in the way he relates to you. But if you’re still puzzled and confused about why he’s pulling away even though you haven’t done anything wrong, the reason is that sometimes men get too comfortable in a relationship and start to assume that they don’t appreciate you as much. like them. do at the beginning.
It doesn’t mean I don’t love you anymore. It just means you don’t feel it anymore. He can’t tell you why because he doesn’t know the reasons; it’s just that you need a plan of action for him to realize how important you are to him.
If you are patiently waiting for a man to change his ways, you may be missing out on your dream relationship where you are deeply adored and appreciated.
