The word itself sounds appealing… but what exactly is charisma? The word itself comes from the Greek word “charis” which means “grace”; however, by definition, charisma is actually not an easy trait to describe, as it encompasses a variety of elements found in some people who have magnetic personalities and extreme charm.

These individuals have an excellent ability to dissuade or persuade others. They are excellent negotiators and usually get what they want with relative ease. Often times, charismatic people are leaders and masters of their craft. This allows them to inspire, charm and influence or persuade the people they come into contact with, whether on a professional or personal level.

Some of the traits of charismatic people include: charming smiles, assertiveness, self-confidence and high self-esteem, focus, unusual calm, authenticity, and having the gift of public speaking. These people are loved or envied by most.

Several historical leaders have been considered charismatic personalities. They include Princess Diana, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi, and Bill Clinton. Many actors and actresses are also considered charismatic. Stars like Elvis Presley, Marilyn Monroe, James Dean, Meryl Streep, and Bruce Willis are often considered to have this personality type because they seem to know how to influence others. After all, they all have raving fans left and right to back up this claim.

So how come these people have charisma? And more importantly, how can you and I develop this wonderful trait called charisma? According to some academics and researchers, charisma cannot be learned so easily. Some say that these personality traits are inborn, an individual characteristic that only a lucky few are born with. Apparently, people who are born charismatic become aware of their trait when they notice that they are likeable, and further develop their magnetism as the years go by.

That would be bad news for most of us; however, Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire in the United Kingdom says that charismatic people have three attributes that increase their likeability and that can be learned by anyone who wants to acquire this personality trait.

The three attributes are:

~ A sophisticated sense that allows them to feel emotions strongly
~ The ability to generate emotions in others
~ Not easily influenced by others

Professor Wiseman says that charisma is so powerful that people will naturally mimic the body language and facial expressions of those they are attracted to. Based on this, here are some tips from Professor Wiseman on how to become a charismatic person:

The first thing is to assume a relaxed, straight, upright posture with your hands away from your body while you talk to the other person. Then, be genuinely interested in what the person is saying. Nod, smile, and of course, maintain eye contact throughout the conversation. Intercept by expressing interest in what he says without rudely interrupting.

Offer praise freely, but be sure to be honest. Pay close attention to the tone of voice and the emotions of your interlocutor. Show empathy. Ask questions related to your life interests. Listen carefully. People like to be heard.

If you are a public speaker, get moving and take the stage with enthusiasm. This will convey a genuine interest in giving your speech, and the underlying message is that you care that they learn whatever it is you’re presenting.

Take care of your tone of voice and put emphasis where necessary to avoid monotonous and boring tones. Be clear and concise, and always be prepared to answer questions with kindness and courtesy. Ask for opinions, comments and, if appropriate, make them laugh. People will always remember someone who made them laugh or have fun.