Sometimes there is a stigma for being charming. I suspect this arises due to perceived falsehood in many of those who would be described as charming.

The solution then is clear and is to become a charmer in an absolutely authentic way. This presupposes that there are identifiable qualities that can be learned, and indeed this is the case.

One of the qualities that distinguishes the true charmer from the rest of the population is a genuine interest in the lives of those with whom he interacts. It is almost as if they have an insatiable curiosity about their fellow man and the life they lead.

Of course, there is an immediate problem with this, as many people will consider this behavior to be that of a nosy parker. So obviously there are other steps that need to be taken before expressing interest. This is done using the ability known as rapport and everyone on the planet has used this ability at some point or another.

Sympathy has been described as a feeling of trust and understanding with another person. You know you have a good relationship when “time stands still” and when they begin to complete sentences with each other. They will also begin to mirror the body language, facial expressions, and breathing rate of others. In deep states of rapport, you will also match your pulse to that of the person you meet. When the other person speaks, you can use what are known as minimal animators. These are words like yes, uhuh and it really is okay and using these words lets the other person know that they have been heard and understood.

So could this thing known as sympathy also be the state of being charming or enchanted? Once you notice that you have established the report, you can begin to guide the other person towards the goal you want to achieve. However, there is a caveat here that you would do well to understand.

Whatever your goal is for the other person, it must be aligned with your values ​​or you can be seen as unscrupulous and manipulative. This is why trained salespeople will always ask prospects and customers about the results they want from the sale. The best of them will fire customers whose needs they cannot satisfy.

So we have discovered yet another aspect of the charmer, which is a genuine concern for the needs and wants of another human being. Being a charm may not be as complex as you first imagined.

If you simply need to respect the points of view of others and listen to them properly and pay attention to their words using minimal stimulation; to reflect your body position and your breathing rate, then you too can start to trust the spell.