It’s not so much what you say as your techniques. For example, if you’re the one starting most of the texting conversations, you’re probably unknowingly killing attraction. It tells the guy that you are more interested in him than he is in you, and gives him the power to control the terms and pace of the relationship. Let him do most of the work, especially at first. Guys like a challenge, so don’t rush yourself too much. Let him think that he will have to wok something to get your attention. If he’s not willing, you don’t want him anyway.
Men don’t respond to words, so what you say doesn’t carry as much weight as you think. Guys have been ignoring our words forever, I mean, unless we say something to his penis, that’s a different story. Suddenly they are on high alert. However, don’t do this. You don’t want them to reply to you for the wrong reason. You want them to get hooked before you go there. So when a guy texts you, don’t be eager to reply. Hang on a minute. If you respond immediately every time you become predictable. Be there, but out of reach. You can do this by varying the time it takes you to respond. You will never be able to predict if it will be 15 minutes or hours. When he hears from you, he’ll be relieved and this will build anticipation, which will build attraction. When learning the techniques of how to text a guy, remember that anticipation is powerful.
If you’re trying to enter a marathon texting event, don’t go there. That’s giving him too much too soon and it won’t keep him on his toes. A sure tip to cut a conversation short is the old “lol.” If he says something funny, send the old “lol”. It doesn’t really guarantee a response and may end the conversation. When you text a guy, leave him wanting more. Don’t give it all at once. If you engage in a marathon texting session, he tends to start thinking you don’t have much of a life and assumes you really like him. Don’t let him get too comfortable fasting. Marathon texting should only be done once in a while. Just give him a taste of what he would be like if he had more of your attention. Marathon texting is not high on the list of how to text a guy.
Think about how it always seems like the one you really don’t like is texting you all the time, while the guy you really like seems to be less than trustworthy. Why is this? Do you treat the one you don’t like so differently? I imagine you don’t jump in to reply to his messages and you don’t find yourself constantly checking your phone. You certainly don’t have your phone glued to your person waiting for a text from him. Could this be why he is so interested in you, because you treat him with a nonchalant and carefree attitude? To balance this out, text the guy you really like as if he’s the one you really don’t like. It adds mystery and that for a guy is quite attractive. Less is more when in doubt about how to text a guy.
I have many male friends. I’ve been out with them and the girls text them constantly. Messages are shown and usually don’t speak highly of the perpetual messenger. Ah, but when they text a girl and she doesn’t jump right away, I’ve seen them constantly checking their phones, sometimes even sending a second message. That girl keeps them on their toes.
