In today’s permissive society few taboos remain.

Adolescents are educated in areas of sex that would have

surprised and embarrassed many married couples in

previous centuries. The fantasies are freely discussed; and

movies are getting more and more explicit. premarital sex is

pretty much the norm. homosexuality, sadomasochism, group sex,

wife swapping: everything can be freely discussed in polite society

now. There is more concern for someone who makes a

value judgment against such practices that yes or no

someone surrenders to them.

But a bastion of privacy and shame remains, and it is

the subject of masturbation. Sperm banks in Australia suffer

of the scarcity of (paid) donors simply because the

The Australian man is too shy to face a receptionist with

evidence in his hand that he actually masturbated.

Some men find it painful to admit that

allow yourself to masturbate, let alone acknowledge such

practice with your friends or even with your GP.

Paradoxically, masturbation is despised by religious prudes.

and released males alike. The prudes see it as sinful, and

males see it as a sign of weakness. However, both parties

practice it

Here is the latest in sexual hypocrisy. all arguments

used against wowserism and double standards in every

another area of ​​sexual practice have overlooked the number

a criminal While “self-abuse,” as it used to be called, is

practiced almost universally, it is also done with almost

universal shame.

It’s like the story of The Emperor’s New Clothes. All

implicitly support the lie that no respectable person

are played “down there” when what we really need is

for an innocent child to tell the truth and say, “Hey, look!

The emperor is playing with himself!”

Many people have found it liberating to be able to speak

freely about their fantasies, about their sexual preferences,

and about other practices that were once frowned upon.

But how much more liberating would it be if people could

exceed the dictates of their biological needs when those

dictates interfere with other objectives. And that’s exactly what

represents masturbation. It is the safety valve in the sexual

pressure cooker. Masturbation prevents us from exploding

unacceptable or inappropriate ways.

I discussed this situation quite frankly with a colleague

minister once, in an effort to get him to realize the positive

masturbation side. Eventually he confided in me that in

his youth (“Before I became a Christian, of course!”)

had a date with a girl whom he respected a lot. Hey

he didn’t want to scare her by being too blunt, so he

stopped at a gas station and went to the bathroom to relieve

himself in more ways than one. And of course it worked.

Yet this same minister still teaches children in his

congregation who are guilty of a great sin if they give themselves up

in masturbation. Pedophilia, incest, rape, homosexuality,

bestiality… all these practices seem to be more tolerated by

a church that refuses to tell the liberating truth about

masturbation.

The traditional reason given to condemn masturbation

within the Christian church is that Jesus Christ taught that

it was just as bad to “look at a woman with lust” as it was

actually commit adultery with her. In other words, the thought

it was as bad as the action. Then a teaching developed that

thinking about sex (which obviously occurs during

masturbation) is bad, if ever actually

enjoy the practice you are thinking about or not.

Some tried nobly to suppress all sexual thoughts, just to

discover that they resurfaced, often in stranger forms

than they had when they were first pushed underground. In Arabic

countries where women are covered from head to toe, for

For example, sexual crimes still occur. And the same goes for

the most extreme “holiness” cults.

Covering a woman’s body will not take away what God has given her,

Biological need to have sex. Neither the clothes will stop the

war that rages in the minds of people who feel guilty about

sexual thoughts. Some Amish groups have achieved

stopping all forms of ejaculation for prolonged periods of

time, only to develop cancer from the rotten semen inside

their sexual organs.

Others have taken the position that if they are going to be fried in

hell anyway, they can also get so much pleasure from

this life as they can before the final judgment.

Thus, a rule intended to teach greater morality has led to

greater immorality, both of those who cast her out

as too hard and of those who have done everything possible to

follow it.

The mistake is that people confuse “thinking about sex” with

“lust”. Lust is actually wanting to do something that you

knowing is wrong There are many people who want these

days. And it is not limited to matters related to sex.

Let’s say, for example, that you like pizza. you don’t feel guilty

about this, you? But if the only way to get one is

steal it from your neighbor, then fulfill your wish might

means doing something you know is wrong (i.e.

stealing). You can wish for the pizza all you want, and even (if

you like it, for the fun of it) fantasize about stealing it; but if he

The bottom line is that you actually wouldn’t (because

you know it’s wrong), then you haven’t sinned.

But if you stole it, if you could get away with it, and if

you held back simply because you were afraid of being

caught, then you are spiritually guilty of the act (theft)

whether or not you had the courage to really

has to. You have “coveted” the pizza, wanting it more than you

you want to do the right thing. But the pizza (that is, what

desired) is not bad in itself.

Applying this to sex, the sin is not in wanting sex (for that

is as universal as the desire to eat), nor in fantasizing

about sex The sin is in really wanting to perform a sexual act.

act that you know is wrong, and then refrain from doing it

just for fear of what people would think of you or what

they would do to you if they found out.

Being turned on by a rape scene in a movie (or a detailed one

description of one in a book) is not the same as actually

want to rap someone And if you felt the scene was

tempt you to rape someone, then masturbate like a

result of fantasy arousal is the best way to overcome the

temptation and stop falling into action

in real life.

Masturbation is the universally legitimate way to satisfy your

sexual appetite without surrendering to anything other than

may not be legitimate. If there was more masturbation, no

it would be much less incest, less rape, less infidelity in

marriage etc.

Instead of trying to stop people from masturbating, the

the church should encourage them to do so, thus leaving

freedom to choose (without the dominating pressure of

accumulation of sperm) not to do those things that God has

forbidden.

Much of this has relevance to women as well. Many

marriages would be happier if wives were not so riddled with

Feelings of guilt about your own need for sex.

There is a popular myth that people cannot live without sex,

and suggests that God is unreasonable in expecting people

remain faithful in marriage, chaste outside of marriage,

and single if the first marriage fails. But people can live

without having sexual relations with another person; and to do it

It doesn’t require an impossible level of discipline.

Living without ejaculation is, however, a different story. AND

because the church has fostered the myth that people can,

through sheer force of will, to become asexual, must take

some responsibility for sexual permissiveness, high

incidence of divorces and remarriages, and the reaction

against God that has resulted from this lie in the world today.

In conclusion, we must ask ourselves: Was Jesus fully

human? If so, did you have wet dreams? (Because otherwise

masturbate sooner or later the semen will come out

through “nocturnal emissions”.) And if this were to happen to

Jesus, would he have had thoughts about sex in the

moment of ejaculation? The obvious answer is yes. For

ejaculation itself is sex. And if Jesus was without sin, then

thoughts about sex (and ejaculations outside of marriage)

should not be more sinful than eating or going to the

bathroom. It’s only cultural brainwashing that has taught us

otherwise.

As a sexually frustrated and religiously uptight young man, I used to

I long for wet dreams, because it was the only time

when I was free to engage in activities and thoughts that

they were forbidden to me during the day. And yet even these

were clouded by the fear that the dream might not be just a

dream. How much better to consciously choose to fantasize

(and masturbate) while awake. For me this became a

guilt-free option only when I found out there was

absolutely nothing forbidding it in scripture.

One of the smartest ways the church has found to

To control the masses has been to make masturbation a sin.

The consequence has been that the most dishonest (i.e.,

those who try to give the impression that they do not

masturbate) are considered the most holy, while

the most honest believers are made to feel guilty and in need of

absolution of the hypocrites.

Anyone interested in a genuine revival of sexual morality and

sincere faith should consider the possibility that the first

step in that direction could be to enlighten the masses to

your right (and perhaps even your responsibility) to

masturbating

At the same time, those who suffer from guilt because of

Age-old myth that real men don’t masturbate need to be faced

which joins as well. The result will be a happy and healthy life.

society.