Your man says that he is no longer in love with you. You can barely contain the sadness and emptiness you feel. You are questioning everything about the relationship you shared and when and where things fell apart. You hate that he doesn’t feel as close to you as he used to and you would do anything to change it. You’re probably wondering whether or not that’s possible given the fact that he made it clear to you that adoration of him is now a thing of the past. Relationships sometimes go through hard times and this is how you should view this. Don’t completely give up on him yet. You can make him fall in love with you again, but it will definitely require effort and patience on your part.

If your man says he’s not in love with you like he used to be, do your best not to jump headfirst into despair. It’s going to be difficult given the fact that he’s essentially telling you that the emotional connection he once felt to you has all but faded. However, this sometimes happens in relationships and it can be corrected. If you get too angry, he’ll see your dramatic and unstable side and make him feel even more distant than he already is. Before you react, take a step back and take a day or two to think things through. If you’ve already gotten too mad at him, do your best not to do it again. Containing your emotions at this time is essential in your plan to make him want you back.

Talk to him when you feel strong and balanced. Do your best to get him to open up about what has changed for him. Sometimes a man will feel that he has fallen out of love because of a fight the couple got into. Other times, it’s about the fact that he feels the relationship dynamic has shifted to a place of friendship instead of romance. If he’s willing to talk about what he’s feeling, be open to listening. He takes what he says and learns from it.

You should also be willing to give him some time to evaluate how he feels. Your broken relationship is going to take time to mend. You cannot make him fall in love with you again today or tomorrow. You should view this as a process that will occur on your own schedule. Just make sure he understands that you are there for him when he needs you, and allow him the opportunity to spend time alone. Loneliness has a way of helping us see what’s really important in our lives, and it can help your boyfriend see how much you mean to him.