It happened the moment you put it on; it happened in an instant; you were not prepared, and suddenly it started. You met someone, and out of nowhere you can feel that sweet, tender, soft feeling that starts in your heart, the surge of emotion when you are with her. When she looks at you, your heart soars to heights you never thought possible before; when she looks away or looks at someone else, she feels a slight tear in your heart, until she turns to look at you and it is instantly healed and restored! You spend your nights thinking about her, you can’t sleep. Schoolwork is a distraction; the task takes forever; you spend your lessons daydreaming in a daydream. You are in love?

NOT YET. What I have described above is a total crush and can happen at any time, for both boys and girls. It’s exciting, it’s dynamic, it’s transformative, it’s exhilarating, but it’s not really love. So, what is love? These are the differences between a crush and love:

1. A CRUSH – A crush is very exciting, your emotions go up and down all the time, you can’t think about studying, you can’t sleep at night, you think about the person you love all the time, you are always worrying, you feel afraid of to leave you, you can’t always trust him or her, your heart beats fast, a crush lasts a short time, when it ends, you feel sad, and it always ends.

2. LOVE – Love feels very calm, your emotions are constant, you discover that you can study better than before, you sleep well, you think about the person you love in quiet moments, you do not worry much, you feel sure that he or she she will stay with you, you can trust him or her, your heart beats fast at the time you want it to, love lasts a long time, if it ends, you still feel happy that it happened, plus it can go on forever even after death.

Crushes aren’t real. Love is real. If you are in love with someone, it means that you do not love him yet. Crushes always end, but it could end up turning into true love, which would be great. However, if this doesn’t happen, the crush is likely to end quite badly.

I hope this information helps you understand the difference, so that you can identify true love when you have found it!