My newborn baby slept soundly for the first month of his life. He slept so soundly that he had us a little worried. At the hospital they told us that a baby needs to be fed every 2-3 hours. My baby loved to sleep 5 hours straight. I look back on those days and wonder “what the hell happened?” It felt like we did a complete 360 ​​degree turn and my head keeps spinning in motion. Instead of trying to wake him up to feed him, I now try to put him to sleep and keep him sleeping. In the first two months I found that holding him with his head on my shoulder and rocking him in a chair would help him fall asleep.

I was then able to gently lay him down for a nap without him waking up. Over the next few months, this sleep technique no longer worked and he carried it in his front pack. He fell asleep and fell asleep in the front pack. However, anytime during his sleep that he tried to remove me from the front pack, he would immediately wake up.

Any mom knows that babies get incredibly heavy after a while, even when they’re just a newborn lump. I tried a different sleep technique where I walked her around singing lullabies until she fell asleep, again this can become an inefficient sleep technique because it ends up making the mother more tired. I went from walking to sitting and rocking him to sleep. After a few days the rocking seemed to be making things worse and after assessing the situation I think I was over stimulated.

The rocking itself was enough, but the singing and rocking combined was just too much for our baby. All of the sleep techniques mentioned successfully got my baby to sleep, however the main drawback was that he was attached to me. He needed to be held and surrounded by motherly care. That meant my baby would consume my night, with no time to cook dinner or shower…

As a mother I chose this form of bonding and commitment because the sleep technique met the needs of my babies. I had a sleeping baby in my arms without him crying himself to sleep. When he placed his sleeping body on our bed, he would immediately wake up. I then found myself picking him up and reassuring him to sleep in our bed again. I realized that he was doing double duty for me and decided to just climb on the bed with him and hold him in my arms. He would pat him on the back, feed him, and after a while of calming down, he would fall asleep.

The transition of our baby from my arms to the bed still woke him up. It took me several nights to find a routine that would allow him to feel safe to go back to sleep. Once he was safely in bed and his eyes open, I would lie down with my head touching his and gently stroking his back. By continuing this sleep technique for a couple of months, I was able to put him to bed without him waking up.

I have continued with this dream technique ever since and feel that it has rewarded me with wonderful moments. It’s an amazing feeling when during light sleep you can open your eyes and look at me. He’ll flash me a big smile and I’ll be like “oh man he’s awake!”, but as soon as his smile has faded and his eyes are closed. Send a message of love and trust to my heart that is priceless. Then she could never take away those wonderful moments by placing him in his crib to cry to sleep. I know as his mother that on most occasions his crying will turn into screaming regardless of the cause. Then she is inconsolable for hours. So I think even trying the “cry” method is just asking for more trouble.